I know the heart of the matter will evade my grasp, but the attempt has to be made.
In a message to the family, I identified Chuck (1942-2024) as a boon companion. Old-fashioned phrasing, to be sure.
He--"Doc" many of us called him--was one of my closest friends for more than a decade. A friendship that included some serious moments, but mostly a lot of foolishness. A lot of foolishness.
Dependable. Especially when I needed help.
Few people know he tumbled into the Cooper River while trying to come aboard my sailboat after releasing a bow line. "Let the boat go," I said. Nope. After being pulled from the water by marina staff, he insisted we still take the boat out. We did. Nice sail.
Doc had a way of enjoying new experiences like a kid in a candy store for the first time. Standing in the companionway during a Wednesday night race. Setting out stakes for a house my wife and I were having built.
Working with Special Ed kids weighed on him more than he let on. The very notion that some of his students may not make it to the end of the year ate at him. Rarely did he address that reality, but it hovered nearby.
He dutifully listened to my rants. Not too many I hope, but always he listened patiently.
He loved a social gathering, especially the ones he instigated. Food, drinks, and pool, and, man, could he stir the pot.
Hundreds of games of pool were shot upstairs in his house. Full bar. Good table. Really, hundreds of games.
Smart. More than he sometimes let on. And more than that, clever.
Summations such as this one seem to me less than time well spent, but somehow they seem necessary. Somehow, to get said what needs to be said--too elusive in the end.
His was--and here I borrow a phrase--a life lived.
Rest in peace, Doc.